Topic: Neighbourly disputes...

[pieman]

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if they have one of those wireless door bells go and buy one the same make then you can ring the bell at all times through the day and night from the comfort of ya own arm chair

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You really are an evil but devious bugger aint ya Col, that's fantastic.

So when do we all meet round your house for a sunday rideout then Trouty, I'm free this Sunday for an early one..

yup best idea is a sunday meet up at your place, i had issues with  my neighbours, my club came round were stuntin up and down the street, lol

they never spoke to  us again, i always rev my bike fully when i start it b4 i leave  and when i return lol

in fact they moved out 2 weeks ago  '>

Anyway, I will get all my guys to turn up in our bullet proof style vests, lol

sure your neighbours would love us, we can have a bike wash and bbq in your garden.

[Aceman]

I could get a few of the guys from The Academy to come around with their full-contact gear on for a demonstration/exhibition fight.  Everyone would be amazed  and your neigbours would probably be petrified seeing my guys in action.

Actually Daz, your cv could look quite scarey- 4 year Army, a Black Belt in TaeKwonDo, and very close connections with all those biker gangs & thugs.  I wouldn't mess with you buddy.

[Mr Rizla]

Daz, I think its about time u launched ur letter cutting business, why not invite all of TLB and even LB(cant say im not nice) round and you can hold some demonstrations as how to make up our bubble stickers '>
just a thought, maybe the neighbours would b interested as well

[Weaver]

Definitely think we should go for early brekkies at Silver Ball Sunday - meet at Troutie's place for the ride up there?   '>

[Spill]

Quote (Darkmonster @ April 28 2007,00:19)

as for the TV cable thing...that totally uncalled for....

And probably illegal.  

[Spill]

Quote (troutslayer @ April 30 2007,08:37)

i noticed that the children from no. 1 had left toys, not just slightly, or a few inches, in our garden, but completely in our front garden...  i said nothing... i'm not petty

You could always collect them in a box and place it by their door.

(Preferably in just the right place to trip them up as they come out.)

Or wait and see if they claim them - if not, they could go the same way as the trees.

[ifizzy]

Quote (troutslayer @ April 29 2007,14:19)

As said previously, whilst they are causing the problems, and i'm not reacting to them, i'm the better person '>

you got to keep cool mate let things fizzle out...............the more you dont react to the things they do (to them it might feel perfectly normal to do stupid things) the less likely it is to get personal personal and this is where it can go really wrong and end up costing you sleep, time, worry, stress, and money.

Keep it really cool dont see the things they do.

[Westie]

Quote (Mr Rizla @ May 02 2007,08:55)

Daz, I think its about time u launched ur letter cutting business, why not invite all of TLB etc...

Can I bring the TL round???  Just in case you want some publicity shots of coarse, I've had quite a bit of interest shown in my screen stickers  '>
and its ok, cos my neighbours love the TL, well they haven't told me they don't to my face...  yet!!!   '>

[trouty]

HA! it gets funnier yet!

Ok, Claires youngest got home from school and didnt have a key, but as there was a fence panel missing, he popped through next doors back garden to get into ours. Now, this was wrong, and he should have had the decency to knock on their door first. But he didnt. Anyway, no.5 saw him and had a verbal bash at him for going thru quote "my garden". He said sorry and explained but she said something else to him  and he just retorted with "it aint your garden anyway, you only rent the place" which was quite amusing... anyways...  that was on the friday (not the one just gone, but the one before).

now, i love irony, especially when its from kids causing it! because a coupke of days later, on the sunday, the neighbours children (from no's 1+5) were out on there bicycles, wobbling around (theyre very young) and bouncing around between the caravan and the transit. When one of them asks me (albeit quite politely) if i would be moving the transit. I asked why, and it was because they needed more room for cycling around (on my front garden)....

i almost immediately rolled around with laughter, like i say, i appreciate irony... theres more to come!

An hour or so later, i popped my head out the front door, to see a pair of teeny feet and legs laying on (our) front garden, so i wandered out to have a look, and no 1's boy, was laying on the garden in front of the caravan and playing with the jockey wheel thing! playing, as in trying to wheel it up and down... i told him not to do that, and explained that playing with that could cause the caravan to fall on him.  (that was one of no.1's kids... no.1 who moaned that one of my van wheels was about 3 inches into his garden...)

wait, wait, theres more...

remember no.5 telling claires youngest off for going thru the garden??

Claire got home from work on thursday afternoon, to find that no.5 and her kid, had half pulled the fence panel (that i had temporarily bodged back into place) away from the posts and were trying to gain access into our back garden.  Claire casually said 'hi' and asked if they were ok. turns out theyre rabbit had got into our garden.  Claire just invited them through and helped them catch the rabbit, apparently, claire managed to get it away from the next garden down, where the rottweiler was licking its lips.  Its a shame we havent got Oz (the greyhound) anymore... lol! '>

[pieman]

you're better than them Trouty. Just take it on the chin, as they're obviously a few teeth short of a gearbox, but don't let them take the piss.

[tallgirl]

I am amazed that you are so calm, by now I would have gotten a little Irate. Good luck and you are the better man.

[Weaver]

Hearing about yours don't 'arf make me appreciate my neighbours Troutie!    '>

[aqua]

Quote (pieman @ May 14 2007,16:02)

take it on the chin

... and bend over to be f***ed too?   Hmmm...

I think as long as you are internally not bothered by what they are doing, then do nothing, but if this shit starts affecting you or you notice that they start pushing the boudaries in what they can get away with, you cannot let them! Deciding then on what approach you want to take depends on whether you think they are doing this to be purposefully awkward or are they just of a lower level of intelligence.

The problem with doing nothing at this stage though is that you dont want your neighbours to take your passive attitude as a sign of weakness. In any case, negotiation is the first step. Have you yet confronted/spoken to them about you being unhappy with their lack of consideration?

I think you need to establish some ground rules and boudaries, come to an understanding about what is and is not allowed. If these are unclear, then, well... Hence it matters if they are spiteful or just plain stupid.

[Aceman]

Darren buddy - I think you're a real hero about this.  You are rising above the situation, not over responding, but being graceful, and even tolerant.  This way, no one can hold anything against you.  In fact you're far more likely to win them over by being seen to be an easy going guy, a gentleman.  

Guys, don't mistake meakness for weakness.  Just because Darren isn't throwing a wobbly or squaring off to anyone doesn't mean he can't.  Darren is ex Army, and one of my black belts.  He obviously a man who is self secure, who has no need to "prove" anything to anyone.  If anything gets out of hand, he'll be seen to have been completely reasonable.  Those of us who know him well can confirm this.  However, if he has to dig his heels in, then whoever is in confrontation with him will regret it.  Did you give your rifle in when you were demobbed.

And to finish off with, a quote from the worlds best selling book.  Ephesians 6:12 - For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

[aqua]

Confrontation does not necessarily mean dressing up as in khaki and going in with swords and arrows. Sometimes people actually dont realise that their actions are causing discomfort to another, so it is possible to let them know that one is not pleased with something and being all civilised about raising such an issue.

Talking to someone goes a long way in sorting problems out but allowing something to escalate to a point where frustration overrules reason can cause unwanted reactions and more problems. The idea is for such a situation not to get out of hand in the first place, so I think communication and being open is key here, not in an accusatory manner but 'lets deal with this together' kind of way.

Personally, I would try to catch a person whom I have a problem with on neutral ground i.e. neither of our houses as people may feel either invaded at theirs or hemmed in mine if I start saying I dont like this and that. So when I see them on the street, I would politely ask whether (in this case) the mum or dad is aware that their children come into my garden, say that I dont feel comfortable with them being there and also mention that there are plenty of things that aren't children-safe, so I would say that I'd appreciate if they didn't come in to my garden.

Going in and saying "I dont want your kids in my garden, if I see them there again, I will tie them up and throw them back over into yours like a sack of patatoes." was not what I had in mind. Although it would be momentarily funny to see their reaction.  '>

[Wildcat]

I'm mixed up in a dispute between my neighbours on either side over garden gnomes. It's hilarious (I am at no 3) - a while ago someone put a couple of gnomes in among my plants, don't know who, but I was quite amused. Then the bloke from no 2 moved one gnome into the plants belonging to no 4.  No 4 was furious, and went round all over shouting and ranting and accusing all and sundry of gnome planting. Then (as witnessed by the bloke across the way) she threw the gnome across the car park, smashed it, then hid the remains. No 4 hasn't mentioned any of this to me, No 2 is in fits of giggles over it. No 4 then accosted my boyfriend (who knew nothing about it at all) and asked if he had moved the gnome - he didn't realise she was so irate, and just laughed and said that gnomes move around on their own at night. This has made her even worse.

I am now undecided as to what to do - next time I see her I could pretend to be deeply upset about the vanished gnome, alternatively I've got a really nasty plaster badger which I could nestle amongst her geraniums.

[Weaver]

Quote (Wildcat @ May 15 2007,09:11)

and just laughed and said that gnomes move around on their own at night.

errrr  but they do don't they?   '>  '>